Covert Persuasion

“The biggest mistake sales professionals make is not seeking out sales training or re-training.”

Price PrichetteI sometimes think back on all the things I was taught about business when getting my MBA, and realize how little practical value most of those bits of knowledge actually have. I learned far more about the most important aspects of business by taking some basic psychology classes, because it always comes down to people.I hear over and over again the same issues from salespeople I train, managers I coach, and business owners with which I consult. One of the most common things I am asked is, “Mark, how can I get people to buy from me instead of my competitors?”The answer is almost always the same, and it doesn’t involve lowering your price, adding incentives, or any of the other typical things that ruin profitability. It comes down to how to influence people.I’ve been affiliated with just about every major sales training program there is as either a student or instructor over the past 25 years. The course I’ve found that really teaches influence is the Dale Carnegie Sales Advantage. It takes the human relations principles developed by Dale Carnegie a century ago and applies them to a scientifically studied method of influencing people during the selling process. Of course, many of you reading my e-mail know this firsthand as former students of mine.Times change, and so do people- so we’ve got some exciting new additions to the Dale Carnegie methods that will help former students and new attendees alike. I’ve arranged with the Long Beach Dale Carnegie Training office to let my readers attend a free training session this Monday, February 11th at 6 PM.I’m extending my personal invite to all of my readers to attend this session (and bring a guest!) If you’ve been in my class, it will be great to see you again, and you can network with some of your classmates. If you’ve never attended one of my sessions, I look forward to meeting you and hearing how I may be able to personally assist you in your quest to influence more prospects and turn them into clients.Please call Aaron Kent at 562-427-1040 x210 if you would like to attend, and I look forward to seeing you all on Monday.Sign Up Today: Covert Persuasion
Time is running out to sign up for this One-Time-Only event where you will learn the secrets of how to get more business without resorting to typical sales tactics.

You and a guest are cordially invited to this FREE Dale Carnegie workshop where you will:
– Learn the fundamentals of “Covert Persuasion”
– Polish and re-fresh your awareness and application of the Dale Carnegie Sales Process, a process that increases sales for over 80% of all sales people
– Begin to acquire your “Masters Degree” as a sales professional
– Network with other Dale Carnegie Alumni and newcomers to find new clients and referral sources
– Receive a free copy of he Dale Carnegie Sales Advantage pocket handbook
– Accelerate your sales performance in 2008 and start the year off by investing some time with the largest professional training organization in the world: Dale Carnegie Training.Details:
Monday, February 11, 2008
2525 Cherry Avenue
Long Beach, CA. 90755
6:05 PM to 8:45 PM*Appetizers and soft drinks will be provided.
Your Tuition: $0.00Please confirm your attendance by emailing catrina.herrera@dalecarnegie.com, or contacting Aaron Kent at 562.427.1040 ext. 210.PS: Come prepared with a description of your ideal customer so that we can help you generate referrals from this session.Have a great week!

Buying Process

If you go to Amazon.com and type in a request for “books on selling” you will receive over 5,000 selections to choose from. They range from, “how to sell more,” to “overcoming objections,” to “building rapport,” and so on. Most of these books proclaim some kind of proprietary selling system or specific process aimed at improving sales results.

Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I think that spending time understanding the selling process is bad. I have read a good number of these books myself and have even had some of these authors, trainers and business leaders as guests on my radio show. I believe that it is critical to understand and practice the “selling process.” I, myself teach how to integrate this process into business relationships every week in the Dale Carnegie Sales Advantage Class. The Carnegie organization has done a fabulous job of developing a powerful yet practical process for selling improvement. I am honored to be a sales instructor and encourage folks to check it out.On the other hand if you were to go to Amazon.com and enter a request for books on “BUYING” you would receive less than 100 books. Why is that? Is it more important that we understand the “selling” process or the “buying” process?Wouldn’t you agree that if we can better understand the process that the buyer goes through that we would be more able to align our thinking with theirs? It is for this reason that I have spent considerable time developing a system for analyzing the process of making a decision to buy a particular product or service. Of course this process is 99% subconscious. Yet I came to the conclusion that this process existed by looking closer at why there is so much friction or resistance in the buying process. In other words, why often times buyers will resist buying simply because the salesperson is attempting to sell?A Matter of TrustLet’s face it most would agree that the biggest challenge that business people face when attempting to persuade others is gaining their TRUST. Trust is a rare commodity these days. Information is flying at us at a staggering rate and we are preoccupied with decoding all kinds of redundant messages at the expense of building trusting relationships. Consequently business people today are more savvy, suspicious and selective than ever before.I have often found that salespeople or even business people in the selling role try to move the customer to take action too quickly and thereby push that customer away. Maybe forever. They not only lose the sale but they lose credibility, damage their rapport with the customer and gain the reputation of being too pushy.For this reason customers are hesitant to take action until they have passed through the first eight stages of the “Buying Decision Process.” When we understand and practice recognizing this process, we can more accurately satisfy customer’s needs at each stage of the process and thereby be the person that helps them to move through each stage of the process. Of course when we help them move through the process we are also earn the right to help them take action.The Nine Stages of the “Buying Decision Process:”Here’s how the process works:Stage 1: Become Aware of Change
Stage 2: Recognize Deficiency
Stage 3: Experience Pain
Stage 4: Seek a Remedy
Stage 5: Encounter Influence
Stage 6: Establish Buying Criteria
Stage 7: Identify Options
Stage 8: Make a Brand Selection
Stage 9: Take ActionStage 1: Become Aware of Change
Let’s look at them individually now. The first stage is that the customer is aware of change. These may be external changes in the market place or internal changes within their company. Something is changing. We can help them to address this change by making them more aware of what is happening around them and perhaps showing them that they are not alone. Other folks in their industry or profession are facing the same kind of changes. This increases familiarity, builds credibility and reduces friction in the relationship. One day I was driving home and noticed that the houses on my block looked newer than mine. I wasn’t sure why but it seemed they were changing. The reality was that they were staying the same and it was MY home that was changing. We will see how shortly.Stage 2: Recognize Deficiency
The next stage is that the buyer begins to recognize some sort of deficiency. They begin to relate the “changes” to what they are missing. They realize that they are “lacking” something. Others seem to have it and they don’t. It could be more sales, profit, a better company culture or just about anything under the sun. Remember that change that I thought was taking place to the homes on my block? Well, I drove up my driveway the next day and looked closely at my house. What I noticed was that the other homes looked newer than mine because my home needed a paint job.Stage 3: Experience Pain
During the next stage the buyer begins to experience “pain.” As many of my clients, students, listeners and weekly readers know, I am fond of saying that there is no change without pain. I say pain but in reality it could simply be discomfort or unease. Surely I was not in physical pain when I discovered that my house needed painting but it did produce some discomfort. Sometimes the “pain” is more of a “pain in the neck.” In this stage the buyer realizes how much it could hurt to remain in their “unchanged” state.Stage 4: Seek Remedy
It is at this point that the buyer decides to seek some sort of remedy. The “pain” of the “unchanged” state has become MORE than the pain of change. For me there was some “pain” or discomfort in getting my house painted. I had to part with some serious coin, find a reputable company, clear the specifics with the community group and invest time in a myriad of logistical elements to make the paint job happen. But the pain of looking at my dull and paint-chipped home was getting to be greater than the pain of planning and financing the paint job.Stage 5: Encounter Influence
At this stage the buyer comes in contact with people, data or things that may influence their decision. In fact at this stage people seem to be tuned into noticing the things that influence their decision. Have you ever made the decision to buy a particular type of car and then all of a sudden you start seeing those cars everywhere? This is called “reticular activity.” It is an area of the brain that is responsible for non-cognitive or subliminal memory. I found myself driving home from work just a few days after noticing the paint peeling on my house and everywhere I turned there was a paint truck. I also noticed that one of my neighbors just painted his home and I asked him who did the job.Stage 6: Establish Buying Criteria
At this stage the buyer begins to transfer the emotional needs to more logical needs. They assemble the criteria that will be required to fill the need. For example I began to think about what my criteria should be for the company that would paint my house. They needed to have scaffolding because my home is located on as sharp grade. They needed to bonded and insured to avoid any contingent liability. They needed to have experience in my neighborhood and so on. I began to build a logic defense mechanism for making my selection.Stage 7: Identify Options
During this stage the buyer conducts an active search for a solution that fits the criteria. I began talking to friends to develop a list of some of the best painting companies in my area. When I put the list together I initiated contact or let others know that I was interested.Stage 8: Make a Brand Selection
In this stage the buyer limits their decision to the brands that satisfy the criteria and sooth the “pain.” The fact that I found a painting contractor that met all my logical criteria is only part of what drove me to make my selection. The larger fact was that the owner of this company actually took me for a walk up and down my block pointing out different home and discussing the pros and con’s of each paint job. He asked me a great deal of questions and determined that my motive was more than just fixing the peeling paint, preserving my investment or saving money. He knew that keeping up with the Jones was important to me. He found that out by recognizing where I was in the buying decision process.Stage 9: Take Action
In the final stage the buyer takes action. The most interesting thing about the paint company that I selected was that they were the first company to visit me nearly 3 months before I decided to “take action” on the paint job. The owner kept in touch me at every stage of the buying process. He didn’t try to PUSH me to take action. He found paint chips for me to look at. He sent me a few before and after pictures of some homes he completed, he gave me names of a few people who’s homes he painted in my neighborhood and he showed a genuine interest in helping me with the decision. He truly WON the business by putting me first and the decision to take action last.Think about your own business. How can you better understand where your customers are in their buying decision process? How can you address them at every stage of the process? How can you help your prospects and customers to recognize what is changing around them? How is that causing them deficiency? What is their “pain?” What can you do to create reticular activity for those that are in the “Influence” stage?Ultimately we can’t push anyone to take action. Taking action will happen of its own accord. We can however make a greater effort to understand our customers, their environment, their concerns and their motives. In doing so we will build long-term relationships that produce greater value and profit for all.

Big Beautiful Bamboo

Have you heard the story of the black bamboo? I spent a great deal of time in Japan many years ago. While there, I met an elderly gentlemen who had a beautiful bamboo garden in his yard. One day he gave me a walking tour of this garden pointing out the different types of bamboo.

“Few people,” the old man said in a ragged voice, “realize that there are hundreds of types of bamboo. This is the Black Bamboo seed.” He held the small seed between his thumb and forefinger like it was a holy relic. It looked like a small walnut as far as I was concerned. “When planted, Mark-san, it must have water and fertilizer nearly day.”

He then led me to a patch of dirt and pointed to it saying, “In this place there will grow the most beautiful bamboo garden with stalks more than 20 feet high. But it will require great loyalty and patience from its caretaker.”

I remember thinking, “Yeah right, 20 feet high. This guy is dreaming. I always get hooked-up with the strange, eccentric odd-balls.” For the next few weeks I watched the old man lovingly tending his dirt patch but nothing grew. Week after week he kept watering and fertilizing yet there was not the tiniest sprout to show for all his efforts. On the day of my departure back to the States, I watched him outside my window. There he was on his knees gently pouring water into the dirt – sprinkling fertilizer onto the soil. But there was nothing. I remember thinking, “doesn’t this guy get it? When will he give up this lost cause?”

Surprise Surprise
I returned to Japan several years later and again rented the same room. As I looked out the window I saw the old man and I felt a tinge of sorrow for him. There he was again with his water sprinkling can and little hand-spade. Yet there was no dirt this time. In its place was the most magnificent bamboo garden I have ever seen. The beautiful black bamboo grew higher than the roof of the house itself. You see, what the old man failed to tell me was that when the black bamboo seed is watered and fertilized repeatedly nothing appears to be happening for months on end. Even after a year with the same process of feeding and watering nothing visually happens.

Then, during the tenth month of the second year, the seed opens and a stalk bursts through the ground. Within a period lasting no more than six weeks, the bamboo grows to a majestic height of 20 feet!

The question is when did all this growth really take place – 20 feet in six weeks or 20 feet in two years?

I believe that the growth was a result of precise events staged over the entire two year period. Why? Because at any time during that period, had fertilizing and watering not been maintained, the seed would surely have died.

Systemized Marketing
Marketing is much the same. To get a prospect to think of you first, to get an old customer to think of you in a new way, to get an entire organization to operate more productively or even to change long-standing attitudes and behaviors, the mental changes may require pro-active relationship building for a number of years.

And once the effort of the relationship building takes hold, results often measure in double digit percentages. The return on effective relationship development is enormous.

As business professionals we must take a more systemized approach to our marketing efforts. Whether it’s developing effective advertising or collateral material, creating an ad placement strategy or even launching a public relations campaign, using a consistent systemized approach is far more effective than the quick fix. This is true in building customer relationships as well.

Many people tell me “if I could only get in front of a prospect then I could sell them my services.” But in getting the customer’s attention and interest we run the risk of losing credibility and being perceived as a “salesperson”. Now there is a way to use a systemized approach to getting more appointments “without” selling!

New Tele-Clinic
I would like to invite you to learn how to use a simple yet powerful five step marketing approach to getting more appointments. I have never used this weekly update to shamelessly promote myself for profit purposes. In fact this is the FIRST TIME I have ever made an offer in this newsletter. Yet I have received an overwhelming request from subscribers and web site visitors for information on this particular topic.

In this Tele-clinic we will present non-selling principles, approaches and techniques that will get you more appointments with qualified prospects. We will cover:

  • How to establish the ground rules so it’s easier to ask for an appointment.
  • What information your prospect should have BEFORE you meet with them (or even talk with them).
  • How to reach the right person without a battle.
  • The things you should never ask a prospect when you get them on the telephone.
  • The things you must ask your prospect before you set up an appointment.
  • Why you should spend more time REJECTING prospects rather than trying to get them to accept you.
  • How to get a prospect to ask YOU for an appointment instead of you asking them.
  • Why you should give your prospect homework after you’ve set the appointment. Several ways to pre-sell your services even before meeting for the appointment.
  • How to dramatically reduce appointment cancellations.

The five steps that we will cover in the Tele-Clinic is as follows:

  1. Preparation
  2. Reconnaissance
  3. Contact
  4. Rejection
  5. Response

What’s a TeleClinic?
The content of our TeleClinics are practical and hands-on. The sessions are highly interactive, not just one way information. We discuss principles and strategies and how to put them into action. You get to ask plenty of questions. We work with participants to clarify the ideas and show them how they can implement each in their own business.

This TeleClinic will be held over a conference line and will last 20 to 30 minutes. It is supported by presentation material which each member will receive prior to the event. Additionally, the entire presentation will be audio taped and made available so that participants can replay the content “on demand”.

We are only able to accommodate a maximum of 20 participants for this TeleClinic, so sign-up today. Simply click here to learn more and register to take part.

Being Different

Do you find yourself chasing prospects around?

First, they act interested, then they don’t call you back. Or after the first meeting they procrastinate and won’t even take your calls.If you’re like many entrepreneurs you advertise your products or services, mail information or meet prospects at industry events then attempt to follow-up on all of these “leads” to see who wants to buy something. And still – nothing happens.How can we motivate prospects to take action?Many marketing gurus tell us we have to DIFFERENTIATE ourselves – that we have to create more PERCEIVED VALUE.I say this is not a matter of “perception” but rather a matter of reality. The real question is… What can we do to actually BECOME valuable advisors for our prospects?We want to be “perceived” as different from other salespeople yet we act just like them. Most of us are still ACTING like salespeople. And most salespeople see all prospects as the same and treat them the same. The fact is that every prospect has a different timetable. They each have a unique set of circumstances that influence their actions. For this reason, one-shot follow just doesn’t work.What does work? A coordinated campaign that provides real BENEFITS for the prospect. In fact the only kind of campaign that does work is on that provides benefits for the prospect BEFORE they decide to do business with us. Oh come on Mark, how in the world can we do that?The Prospects View
Think of how marketing is “perceived” from the prospects point of view:FIRST: They see an ad that tells them how fabulous our product or service is. This may spark their interest and they may even call us to find out more, but does it benefit them? NOSECOND: They get something in the mail that tells them why they should do business with us. Some of this may ring true but does it benefit them? NOTHIRD: They get a call from us asking if we received the information requested with a clear intimation that the next step is to meet with us so we can “close” the sale. Does this provide them with any benefit? NOAnd we wonder why they blow us off?The Root of the Problem
The problem starts with the follow-up process itself. In most businesses, especially small businesses, new prospects are usually contacted only ONCE or a maximum of TWICE via mail and telephone. There is always the good intention to follow up again later, but the discipline required to do this is sorely lacking. I know because I’ve been there. There are always a million other things to do. Sales appointments. Meetings. Paperwork. Coordinating advertising. Dealing with employees. Client issues and ad infinitum.We have to remember that for every person who responds to our message, there are 2, 3, 10, maybe more, who ALMOST responded. They heard our message. Thought, “that’s interesting,” but were unsure. Perhaps they made a note and put it aside. Maybe they stumbled over the note a day or two later and read it again. Maybe, they even got to the phone and were about to call you, when someone came to the door and interrupted them. Finally, the note got buried with everything else on their desk and was forgotten forever.These people who ALMOST responded WILL respond to another nudge, or two, if the nudges come at the right moment and the message contains some kind of benefit for them. This is what marketers call “Residual Influence” and it’s an often-overlooked tool that’s the real key to successful follow-up.Understand the Timing
In my experience I have found that prospects fall into four distinct groups. Let’s refer to them as: NOW prospects, SOON prospects, FUTURE prospects and, NEVER prospects. Following up with each of these different groups requires a different approach and a different type of benefit for the prospect.”NOW prospects” are ready to make a buying decision. The only question is with “who.” The goal here is to determine their motives and link your product or service to that motive. It should be relatively easy to secure an appointment with this type of customer. But beware, any delay in following up on this type of customer can and WILL cost you business. There are never enough of these.”SOON prospects” are in the early stages of consideration. Typically they are thinking of making a purchase in the next six months but must resolve one or more issues. This could be budget, options, selection or the timing could hinge on another event. It is critical that you discover what these variables are. This presents a tremendous opportunity to provide some information or referrals that might BENEFIT this prospect and move them toward making the right decision. Know that they crave information that will help them with their decision. They also require some handholding and appropriate but consistent communication during the consideration process.”FUTURE prospects” are people who are not likely to make a decision within the next six months. These people are usually not very interested in your product or service at the present time because they are preoccupied with other issues. FUTURE prospects could also include your past clients, and customers with whom you have a long-standing relationship. I recommend that marketers develop industry updates that could be beneficial to theses future customers. We don’t want to spend allot of time with FUTURE prospects now but we do want to develop a relatively inexpensive but informative way to maintain contact with and influence over these prospects. The trick is to develop a method to keep these prospects in the pipeline by giving them something of value. Email is a great way to do this.”NEVER prospects” have no intention to purchase from you. These people will waste as much of your time and energy as you let them. They may like your information and the benefits you provide but they have no intention of dealing with you. Perhaps consistent and regular follow-up could convert NEVER to MAYBE, but you might never know, and it might take a tremendous amount of effort. Hint: often times prospects ONLY interested in price are NEVER prospects. If all they want is a cheap price are they worth the time?How to Tell the Difference
The problem is, how do you tell which type of prospect they are? And how do you do this without wasting your valuable time on the NEVER customers? You need to have a complete follow-up system that addresses the needs and wants of each group. The good news is that the system I’m about to describe deals with all four types of prospects automatically – you don’t have to worry about what type they are, and you won’t waste any time dealing with “tire-kickers”.A Typical Approach
While this can be applied to any industry let’s assume you are a real estate agent and you get an inquiry from a young couple. Mr. and Mrs. Smith that are thinking about selling their home and moving up to a bigger one in your area in the next 6 months. They are requesting one of the FREE Special Home Seller Reports you offer on your web site or in your informational marketing program. Most agents would determine that this is a SOON prospect and would send the report and then call to try to get an appointment. This would not result in a listing because Mr. and Mrs. Smith simply are not ready to move at this time. Learning this, the agent would create a follow-up for six months. At that time they would call Mr. and Mrs. Smith only to find that they listed their house and it’s already been sold. Has this happened to you?Using the Residual Influence Strategy
But by using our “Residual Influence” strategy we handle things quite differently. This time we tell the prospect that we are different than any other agent. We ask questions determining what they want to “learn” about. Then tell them we will teach them for FREE! We schedule a series of twelve appointments with the couple – one every two weeks for six months. At each of these twelve appointments, we sit down with them, at their convenience, and explain everything they could ever possibly want to know about buying and selling a house. We agree to educate them. To go above and beyond what every other salesperson is doing. To provide a BENEFIT for the customer even BEFORE they make the decision to buy from us!At the first meeting, we explain in great detail how they can find the best mortgage at the lowest rate. At the second meeting, we explain how they can find the best homes at the lowest prices.
At the third, we tell them what can be done to their house to immediately raise its market value. And so on. Every two weeks for six months, we impart all of our real estate expertise to ensure that they can make the best possible decisions. This is actually in the best interest of the customer!Now, if at any time during this six-month period the couple decides that they are ready to make their move, whom do you think they will call? The answer is obvious: YOU! By spending the time to educate them, and by demonstrating your expertise, you have become their preferred choice – the only choice. When the time comes to list their home, you will be viewed as a trusted advisor, NOT a salesmen hunting for a commission. Residual influence in action.As I say, the residual influence strategy can be used for just about any kind of business, product or service. It is a universal way to both improve your relationships and help your prospects see you as a unique option in a marketplace crowded with copycats. Again it’s not so much about being “perceived” as different it’s about actually BEING different.

Anti-Attraction

The Top 10 Ways NOT to Attract New Clients

They say marketing has a bad name. But I maintain that NOT marketing has a much worse name. If you’re an entrepreneur or small business owner interested in attracting new clients, are you still committing any of the 10 deadly sins listed below?

10. Make sure nobody can really understand what business you’re in. Use buzz-words and industry jargon. Never share the results of what you do or mention how you’ve helped your clients. Make people really work to figure out how you can help them.

9. Talk only about features and processes in your marketing materials. Don’t include any benefits or case studies of successful clients you’ve worked with. Throw in lots of impressive industry jargon and don’t worry about professional design or paper. Using 20# copy paper is fine.

8. Put up a quick-and-dirty website with most of the pages still under construction. Make sure to design it yourself and make it look as amateurish as possible. Of course, obscure navigation, huge graphics files and pages that lead nowhere will keep ’em coming back.

7. Forget about spell check and proofreading. People don’t care about typos or if you spell their name wrong. Whip out every e-mail as fast as you possibly can. And never put a signature line on your email, let alone a subject line that means anything.

6. Don’t ever network. Make sure nobody ever gets to meet you in person and learn who you are and what you can do for them. And if you do happen to show up at a networking event, make sure to sit in a corner with a beer and lots of hors D’oeuvres, away from pesky prospective clients.

5. Don’t write any articles or do any talks demonstrating to the world that you’re an expert and really know your stuff. Make sure to keep all of that a big secret. Also never share one bit of your expertise with anyone unless they pay you first.

4. Don’t ask questions when meeting with a new prospective client. Just give them a long, detailed presentation on all the technical aspects of your work. If they don’t understand you, they probably wouldn’t be a good client anyway.

3. Do substandard work as long as you think you can get away with it. Strive for mediocrity and make sure your clients pay for it through the nose. Why should you work so hard when they end up making so much money from your expertise?

2. Don’t return phone calls – ever. Just wait for them to call you back. If they really need your assistance, they’ll keep trying until they catch you in. And when they do reach you, make sure to sound impatient and too busy to help them.

1. Disappear. One you’ve completed a project, make sure they never hear from you again. Heck if they really need you, they’ll call. But don’t make it too easy by ever giving them your business card or putting your name in the yellow pages. You don’t want to look like you’re begging. Have some dignity, for goodness sake!

If any of these symptoms are present in your business, its time to think about making some core changes to your marketing effort. At the Small Business Advisory Network we like to say that we influence decisions, improve performance and inspire change. That’s what our consulting, workshops, web site, weekly articles and The Small Business Hour Radio Show are all about.

All You Can Eat

Right now on the Serengeti there is a gazelle running like the wind. Her blood is pumping in her veins. Her lungs are nearly exploding. She runs harder and faster with fear in her heart.

Why does she run?

She is being chased. The queen of the beasts is at her heels… a bloodthirsty lioness. She escapes as the lion takes down a different, less agile gazelle. She will live another day.

A few hours later, the gazelle finds herself grazing on the same plain not fifty feet from the very same lion and her entire pride. The lions lick their chops. They are stuffed and tired from the hunt. The gazelles are no longer afraid because the lion is no longer acting hungry.
I have found that most customers feel like that gazelle. They feel like they are being hunted, stalked, and eventually taken down. I guess that’s because sales people are taught to act hungry. Even marketing material: ads, brochures, mailers, web sites and the like are focused on “hunting” for easy prey.
Traditional selling and marketing is a manipulative process that is designed to get someone to buy regardless of whether or not they need to buy. Make no mistake, traditional marketing is about the pursuit – the hunter and the hunted. It’s about overcoming obstacles, circumventing roadblocks, and tricking or trapping your enemy.

What if you were able to break out of this traditional marketing trap? What if you were able to present your products and services in such a way that prospects and customers sought you out, rather than you chasing after them? How valuable would it be to your business if you could ATTRACT your ideal prospect without spending a fortune on advertising?
All marketers like to believe they have a unique solution. They are confident that they are different from the competition. When you get right down to it, however, most marketing says the exact SAME thing. It talks about what the company, product, or service DOES. At best, it may promise some generic group of benefits in which buyers MAY be interested. Even the best marketing materials (web sites, brochure, flyers, ads, radio or TV spots, promotions, interactive CDs or videos) attempt to communicate to the customer why their product, service or company is better than the competition. Few focus on the problems that the customer is having. This is at the core of the attraction mindset.
My advice to you is this:

  1. STOP acting hungry. The more you chase, the more they will run.
  2. Let your marketing materials educate, inspire and influence your customers and prospects rather than SELL them.
  3. Take a big step back when you approach prospects. This goes for creating marketing materials as well.
  4. Focus on the customers problems in your conversation as well as in your marketing communication. When we understand the customer’s problems, we can build a viable solution that is probably very different from your hungry competitors.

Taking this approach will allow you to build stronger relationships with clients and establish a brand that will be viral worthy and create a buzz in your industry. In short, the best way to have “all you can eat” is simply to not act so damn hungry.

Check out my new Attract More Business Self Study program. Now you can get five days of my attraction mindset FREE. Just click here!

Have a great week!
I hope that this “Business Update” has been helpful in assisting you to improve the performance of your organization. For more information on how the Small Business Advisory Network assists companies in improving their performance, please feel free to contact us at 310-320-8190 or email mark@markdeo.com

Mark Deo
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Tips on How to Find a Mentor

Mentors can help you escalate your career, boost your self-development and improve your relationships. My whole life, from an early age, I sought out mentors in many different areas of life. You can find a great mentor and here are a few tips to help you do that.
Decide what area you want help with – examine your life and determine if you want help with your career or your health or your relationships. When you know the area you want to focus on you can then begin searching for a mentor.

Investigate top performers in your industry – if you want to find a career mentor, find out who are the experts in the field of expertise you want to develop.

Find out where your role models hang out – check out networks, industry events and conferences to watch out for potential mentors. Spend time watching the people in the room and make note of anyone who stands out and has the “presence” you are looking for.
Investigate official mentoring programs – many organizations now have internal mentoring programs you can become a part of. If you work for yourself you can also investigate Government areas that have established mentoring programs also.

Select the mentor – when you find the person you believe would be suitable, spend some time watching them in action. Ask to go along to a presentation with them or ask if you can spend a “day in the life of” them and watch what they do.

Ask others opinion of your selected mentor – when you have chosen someone, ask around to find out what you can about their achievements, beliefs, values and way of operating. This will give you insight into them before you approach them about mentoring you.

Approach the selected mentor – phone them or make an appointment to see them. Advise them why you want to meet and schedule time. This is an important step in the process so you can show them you respect their time and you are committed to dong the right thing.

Have an agenda – when you meet have an outline of what you would like to discuss. Your agenda should include why you want them to mentor you, how long it is for and what you hope to gain during that time. If they agree to mentor you, you can then work out how you can also support them.

Set up an agreement – if you both decide to proceed, set up an agreement with guidelines for timeframe, contact boundaries, full honesty etc. If you would like to know more about this check out “How to be a great Mentee“.

Fulfill your mentee commitments – always turn up to meetings prepared, always complete any assignments or tasks given to you from your mentor and always look for opportunities to support your mentor.

When you find a good mentor it can change your life.

This article was written by our friend and partner, Neen James, a leading productivity expert from Australia. She has worked with many organizations to boost their performance through communications and message management. She has numerous articles on productivity available on her website at www.neenjames.com.

Have a great week!
I hope that this “Business Update” has been helpful in assisting you to improve the performance of your organization. For more information on how the Small Business Advisory Network assists companies in improving their performance, please feel free to contact us at 310-320-8190 or email mark@markdeo.com

Mark Deo
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The Miscommunication Tool

I don’t know about you, but I’m spending more and more time with email every year. It used to be that email was used for sending quick messages. Now people are carrying on entire relationships (personal and business) using email. It’s not unusual for a client to request to be communicated with exclusively by email. When this happens, how do we truly understand their motives? How can we urge them to take action? What can we do to ensure we are being understood and how can we make sure we in fact do understand what the client is communicating? I would venture to say that email is as much a tool of Miscommunication as it is communication itself!

While some authors and trainers talk about email strategies and tactics, one of the best resources on using email more effectively is the book Email Power by Steven Griffith. I interviewed Steven on our show this week and you can listen to it by clicking below:Email Power Interview Segment 1Email Power Interview Segment 2Email Power Interview Segment 3

Email Power utilizes The Language Response System, a process for analyzing and determining the communication style of the individual you’re corresponding with-in less than 60 seconds! Griffiths talks about how we can identify and speak in any of the four styles of communication: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and digital. Human beings process and interpret information in different ways depending on which sense system is dominant in their brain. While most people “mix and match” one style usually dominates.

  • Visual communicators take their world in by what they see. They talk in terms of “view,” “vision,” “show,” and “appears.” A visual person is interested in how your solution, your proposal or your presentation “looks” to them.
  • Auditory communicators take their world in by how things sound. They talk in auditory terms such as “I hear you,” “Talk to me,” “Sounds good to me,” etc. An Auditory person is interested in how your solution, your proposal, your presentation “sounds” to them.
  • Kinesthetic communicators take their world in through their feelings. They transform images, words, and sounds into feelings terms such as “I have a gut feeling,” “Let’s get a handle on this,” “I have a sense this is the right decision.” A kinesthetic person is interested in how your solution, your proposal, your presentation feels to them.
  • Digital communicators process and organize their world by how it makes sense in their head. Digitals usually don’t have many “feeling” words in their communications. They’ll “think” about your offer, “consider” the alternatives, and “formulate a response.” A digital person is interested in how your solution, your proposal, your presentation if it is logical and makes sense to them.

His book contains numerous examples of how to structure emails that help us to match with the intended receiver and thereby build a better relationship.

Thanks for tuning into this weeks business update. Also, remember our upcoming Dale Carnegie Sales Advantage Course starting on July 31, 2006 where we talk about how to match with others using these styles. Additionally, our Attract More Business Program is available in a 6 CD and 186 page hardbound set now. Just go to www.attractmorebusiness.com.

Relationship Marketing

I remember my first trip to England back in the eighties. We were kicking around London looking to pass the time and spotted a “tealeaf reader.” For fun we thought, “let’s go check it out.”

I had no idea what tealeaf reading was all about. I thought they would whip out a leave from a tree or something and start reading it like a book. What I discovered was even more incredulous.For the Highland Scots, twists of fate were prefigured in the patterns left at the bottom of one’s empty teacup. The general idea of “tealeaf reading” is to interpret the significance of an alphabetical list of the natural symbols commonly found at the bottom of a cup of tea. They would apparently predict fame, fortune and failure based on these soggy herbs.What does this have to do with business improvement, you ask?Let’s face it; running a business is a sober undertaking. There’s no place for the crystal ball, as it were. Successful business leaders must possess a set of pragmatic disciplines in order to make the necessary daily decisions in running their business. They must make very rational and logical connections based on their circumstances.For example, they may see competitors reducing their price and think, “I need to effectively compete by lowering my price or building value.” Or they look inside their company and see an unproductive sales group and think, “we need an incentive program to make people work harder and sell more.” Or they may look at their product mix and notice a product or service not performing as well as others and think, “let’s launch a creative promotion or advertising campaign.”These are very logical and rational responses but I don’t think they are enough. Not that these decisions are incorrect, but they are only part of the story. Not being one to believe in fortune telling, I do sometimes think that business leaders can learn a thing or two from these prognosticators.Everyone’s heard about the 5 P’s of Marketing: Product, Pricing, Promotion, Packaging and Positioning. Certainly all of these disciplines are important but I now realize that they are somewhat lacking in our new 21st Century.As I’ve said many times, today we live in an age NOT of information or technology but of relationships. Certainly consumers are still influenced by promotions, pricing and packaging but relationships have the greatest impact over brand choices and vendor selection.Relationships often take longer to form and carry even greater weight in the B2B world. If you think about it, the higher the cost of a product or service or the more complicated that product or service is, the more critical the relationship. This means developing a powerful relationship with a vendor or supplier who will do more than quote prices and take orders.Therefore it is not enough for suppliers and service providers to merely REACT to client needs. In fact they must learn to become PROACTIVE in predicting customer needs. In a sense good marketers need to learn to read their customer’s minds. They need to become good at “reading tea leaves.”Ultimately client’s need suppliers who will help them learn to evaluate and make the right purchase decisions. This is where CRM or Customer Relationship Management can become very useful in helping to predict buying trends. Customer Relationship Management (CRM) is a label that has been tacked onto practically everything having to do with marketing. Like the broad field of marketing, CRM touches all aspects of marketing analysis, marketing communications, sales, and customer service.CRM is a technique aimed at collecting information from prospects and customers about their needs, and providing information that helps them evaluate and purchase products that deliver the best possible value. Think of CRM as a process for managing the company’s resources to create the best possible experience and value for customers while generating the highest possible revenue and profit for the company.A typical CRM system uses a centralized database to store data about marketing, sales, and customer service. This gives employees a complete view of the company’s relationship with each customer. This improved communication technique results in creating a one-to-one relationship of understanding each prospect’s needs and showing that the company’s products or services meet those needs. This encourages the prospect to select that vendor. In other words, a CRM approach helps a company implement the learning and communications techniques that demonstrate the desire of the company — and the value to the customer — in forming a long-lasting relationship.For marketing to be effective, management must understand what the needs of the target audience are, which product attributes they value, and what motivations they respond to.
This requires more than creative advertising. It requires researching and understanding a target market, making products or services convenient to purchase, and giving each customer true value and satisfaction.You may not feel the need to go out and buy a bag of tea leaves and practice your fortune telling skills, but I encourage every business owner to think about ways that you may be able to put CRM in place within your organization. The information you will gain will help you to accurately predict buying patterns and maybe tell you more about your company today as well as your customer of the future.

Productive vs. Unproductive Conflict

From time to time we feature other experts in business improvement. I am thrilled to bring you this insightful article from Dr. Victoria Simon and Dr. Holly Pedersen of Talk Works, Inc. The ladies were recently guests on my Small Business Hour and we discussed how unproductive conflict can be turned into “productive” conflict. (Yes, there is a difference). They were even able to resolve some conflict between Matt Walker and I – a miracle in itself! Check them out at www.ourtalkworks.com.

-Mark Deo Introduction
A couple of months ago we received a call from a mid-sized Los Angeles based company that had recently expanded. One of the new division heads called to book a communication-training program for his team. He explained that he wanted us to come “immediately, if not sooner.” Due to his obvious concern for the success of his new division, we shuffled our schedules and arrived to begin our team building training the following week. Our first in-person meeting took place in his office, just prior to the start of the first session. He explained that his team had made virtually no progress with their initial goals “because there’s too much conflict!” My only thought was, “Oy! Wait till he hears our introduction to his group when we tell everyone that we’re here to teach them how to have conflict!”

What is productive conflict? (and do we really need it?)
Here is our definition of unproductive conflict: frequent, repetitive arguments that are not resolved and that leave both parties feeling more angry and frustrated. It is common for unproductive conflict to occur when the “real” issues are not being communicated, but instead trivial issues are being expressed through provocative communication styles such as jokes, sarcasm, denial, blame, etc. Productive conflict, however, is an open exchange of conflicting or differing ideas in which parties feel equally heard, respected, and unafraid to voice dissenting opinions for the purpose of reaching a mutually comfortable resolution. Because this type of conflict allows individuals to feel comfortable sharing conflicting opinions and ideas, it is a very creative and dynamic process that reveals new possibilities and insights. The stronger your ability to engage in productive conflict, the more profitable your business will be. Think about it: why do you hire different “experts” in your company? Because each one of them has different education, work and life experience, and problem solving skills. The ability for teams to come together and share their ideas, expertise and opinions is what inspires the most creative and forward thinking business decisions. But this will inevitably involve conflict as your teams share their different opinions on the “best” way to accomplish each goal. Even the sole proprietor profits from successful productive conflict skills since interactions with clients or customers can be handled in ways that ways that undermine trust, create negative feelings and ultimately turn customers away or that allow relationships to flourish (and generate excellent word of mouth and referrals).

5 simple steps to productive conflict
1. State position using “I” statements, OR speaking behind a glass wall. Imagine that you are standing behind a glass wall. You can see and hear the person you are talking to, but you are only allowed to discuss what is taking place on your side of the wall. You do this by talking ONLY about yourself. Be very careful not to assume that starting a sentence with “I” is enough to avoid pointing the finger (We hear this all the time from “I” communication beginners: “I think you’re wrong!” Clearly this will not avoid an argument.). The goal is to avoid creating defensiveness in the other party and to ensure that you are clearly voicing your ideas and thoughts rather than becoming distracted from the issue by pointing fingers at the other person. Just think about how it feels when the person with whom you are arguing says something like, “You just don’t get it! Your ideas are crazy!” That “you” immediately places us on guard, so we become unwilling to engage in the kind of healthy exchange necessary for productive conflict. Try “I” instead! 2. Identify common ground or a common goal. While productive conflict does by nature involve an exchange of differing ideas and opinions, it still requires that the involved parties share the common goal of developing a mutually agreed upon resolution, plan, or decision. Clearly stating what you and the other party have in common — to complete the project, resolve the conflict, decide on a plan of action – means that you begin the discussion as members of the same team, moving forward in the same ultimate direction, rather than as opposing forces. 3. Use reflective listening. In order for conflict to be productive, the thoughts and ideas of all involved parties must be truly listened to and understood. We are often so eager for someone to hear and agree with our point of view that we lose site of the fact that a solution that works for both parties can never be reached until all opinions, wants, needs, and desires have been shared and listened to. Reflective listening involves not responding immediately, but actually thinking about what the other person has said asking questions, if needed, to ensure that you understand and to reassure the other party that they are really being heard. For example, “It sounds like you’re suggesting that we restructure the management team, is that correct?” 4. Get curious About others’ ideas. Rather than immediately shooting down a co-worker’s ideas, or jumping to defend your own position or opinions, “get curious” about your co-workers’ ideas. Focus the discussion on finding out more information about your co-workers’ thoughts and experiences, and the reasons for their position. Uncover as much information as possible about why your co-workers think the way they do. This not only prevents the discussion from being an argument in which the involved parties staunchly defend their position, but it also may result in you learning something. 5. Gradients of agreement. Making conflict productive and creative also involves redefining what it means to “agree” with others. An agreement doesn’t have to mean a 100% consensus of involved parties. It could mean a partial agreement, or even an agreement to move forward with a decision without complete consensus from the group. Operating under the assumption that all parties must agree completely may keep you stuck in the process of resolving a conflict or making a decision. See if it is possible to achieve a gradient of agreement. ConclusionBusiness productivity depends on your willingness to engage in productive conflict. Hopefully your business creates a work environment where top, mid and lower level employees trust that openly sharing ideas and voicing opinions is not only acceptable, but encouraged. By applying these five simple steps you will be able to transform “conflict” into a powerful business tool. To learn more communication and collaborative team building skills, we encourage you to see our website at: www.ourtalkworks.com or to contact Talk Works at 310.860.5191. Victoria Simon, Ph.D., CEO Talk Works, Inc.Holly Pedersen, Ph.D., President Talk Works, Inc.